The actress and It’s Showtime host Nadine Lustre admitted that she has also a fair share about depression battle. She shared it in the midst of grieving for his brother death Isaiah.
On the night of October 8, one of her family member found dead swimming with his own blood. The victim identified as Isaiah Lustre y Paguia, the younger brother of the actress Nadine Lustre, according to the Criminal Investigation and Detection Unit Chief Supt. Rodelio Marcelo. As to the younger sister of Nadine, Naoemi, she was playing games at her iPad tablet inside her bedroom when she heard gunshots coming from their comfort room.
She went out of the room to check and saw Isaiah lying in a pool of his own blood. She called Ezekiel her brother and sought assistance from their neighbours. Isaiah was brought to the Pacific Global Medical Center and was declared dead on arrival at the hospital by his attending physician Dr. Maria Therese Odilla s. Barasi. The Quezon City Police Department (QCPD) said that they recovered empty shell of a .38 caliber gun at the scene.
After the death of the younger brother of the actress, the social media is in a buzz about the reason behind his death. But the family decline further investigation about the teenager’s death, they were certain that the cause of his suicide is depression.
Smiles and laughter is not a proof that a single person is happy and contented in life, sometimes it is a shield used to hide the true emotions an individual is feeling. No matter what our age bracket, our state of mind, our situation and most importantly what we feel, most of us put up or have sometimes in the past put on a poker face or a mask, hand picked for a particular situation at hand.
Behind that false smile or those dark glasses lies a sense of insecurity or fear revealing our true being. Faking your emotions has become customary while showing yourself. According to a previously depressed person, when depression strike and hit him, he wore different fake faces while he is denying that he is in a state of depression until he hit rock bottom and eventually lead to his attempted suicide. He seek professional help and live a healthy lifestyle that help him overcome depression.
Depression is a psychological condition marked by prolonged periods of sadness, anxiety, lethargy and hopelessness, which often manifested in loss of appetite, insomnia, fatigue, excessive sleeping and suicidal ideation.
In the Instagram post of the actress last Thursday night, October 12, Nadine shared that it also comes to the point of her life that she want to give up because she was drowned already by the negative emotions before, and up until now she still feels the negativity inside her.
She said in her post that “It may come as a surprise to us but she have struggled with depression way back and up until to this day. She have days where she just sitting in the tub, asking herself a lot of questions and feel confused. She felt like she was just looking in someone else’s life through a window. Feeling bad because she is not enough and everything that she do and will do will never be enough. It is not easy she added. She also have days when she have to put a mask on, smiling, numbing herself from the negative emotions. Too often she have already mastered the art of hiding it, she bet that we never noticed it.
And base to her statements, Nadine comes to a point that she wants to end her life. But thanks to the people who love her and help her overcome the negativities she had. According to her she is thankful that she was blessed to have a strong heart and clear mind. She also has a family who will always be her strength, friends who will always pull her up and love that will always guide her.
The It’s Showtime host stressed out that ending her own life is not the solution to whatever problem she was having before. She said that, before we do something we will regret, think about all the great things that we can do in the future, and people we will meet, places we will going to travel to and the lives we will touch. And added that she almost did it before and she was so thankful that she did not do it because if she did, she wouldn’t be living the life that she has now. She said stay with us because life is beautiful and she added the hashtag keep going.
Despite the pain brought by the sudden death of her brother Nadine keep her promise that she will help share message to the teenagers experiencing depression. The young actress advised to the people experiencing depression is not be shy to seek help from their own family and close friends.
According to her that if you ever hit rock bottom, don’t be ashamed of opening up to your loved ones. If anyone understands and cares about what you are going through, it them. We are who and what we say we are. If we think we are weak, we will be weak. If we tell ourselves we are not worthy, we will be unworthy. But if we say we are strong, we will be strong and if we tell ourselves that we can do it, we can indeed do everything. The only validation that we will ever need is from our own self.
According to her many of the teenager nowadays experiencing countless depression brought by disappointment in their love life. But the actress pointed out that there is nothing wrong in crying and feeling upset but ending one’s life is not the solution to the problem. She said that if you are heartbroken just cry it out and then stop. Pick yourself up and dust the problem off.
The person causing you feelings to be upset is not the last person on earth. She said also that time will come that we can find someone that is meant for us and who will make us better person than before. She also added that she did not believe in it before but look at her now. She again stressed out that don not even think about hurting yourself or taking your life just because you want the pain and sadness to stop. “It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to feel pain. It’s okay to be vulnerable. We are made to have emotions. Don’t be afraid to let it out.
Depression is really an unfortunate mental illness many struggle with, not just famous personality but also ordinary individual in every walks of life. Although we might not see any visible signs, we can be sure that it is just there and those who were affected by it, carry it together with them anywhere.
Don’t be afraid to seek help may it be profession help or not if you are struggling with depression. As most depression fade by the help of close friends and family, there are cases that psychiatrist is of great help. It is not known exactly what causes depression, but variety of issues may be involved. These include biological chemistry, when the neurotransmitter, the brain chemical that carry signals to the part of the brain and body are abnormal or impaired, the function of the nerve receptors and nerve systems change leading to depression. Hormones are also consider, if the body’s balance of hormones changes it can cause or trigger depression. Inherited traits, depression is more common in individual whose relatives have the same condition.
Early childhood trauma, traumatic events may cause changes in the brain that make a person more susceptible to depression like physical or emotional abuse or loss of a parent. Untreated depression can result in behavioural, health and emotional problems that affect every area of ones life. Complications related to depression may include alcohol and drug abuse, academic problems, family conflicts and relationship difficulties and suicide.
There were also myths about depression. They say that depression is nothing but just “the blues”. Most people dismiss other people’s symptoms with the classic “Just shake it off” or “You’re just having a bad day” and certainly it does not help. Such remarks prevent the person from seeking professional help, until their emotions spiral downward even further. Next is some people say to just pop some pills and it will go away.
To take some antidepressants is just one aspect of addressing depression, effective approach is to consider all aspects. Another is self-diagnose and self-medicate, some people suggest to research in on the internet by doing it run the risk of misinterpreting ones symptoms and possibly making it worse by delaying proper treatment. Lastly is don’t talk about it so it does not get worse. Many are hesitant from talking about their symptoms of depression with other people in fear of stigma.
According to psychiatrist, Dr. Hargrave each person has a different personality and has their own mechanisms for coping depression, they just have to figure out what works for them by the help of the professionals. They should read about it, get pamphlets about it and do research about it. And don’t take it for granted because it is an actual disease, it is not just up in your head.